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There's nothing wrong with someone having fantasies about being "taken," even forcefully. However, as a survivor of sexual assault, I can guarantee that "real" rape is not the kind of thrill that this person seems to think it is. Being the victim of real rape is about pain, terror and degradation--NOT pleasure.
What if her partner decided to take her claim to want to be "real" raped at face value and hire someone to do it...some thug off the street, maybe a drug addict desperate for funds to support his habit, who might be willing to attack her, beat her, violate her, cut her, and leave her for dead? Would she get off on that? No??? Somehow, I don't think so, either. :(
Posted by BeingABear on January 16, 2011 at 2:54 AM · Report
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This woman seems incredibly naive about the dynamics of this kind of scene. She really doesn't understand what "real" rape would feel like... Real rape which may include actions that she's not okay with. It would probably feel closer to cockroaches crawling all over her body than anything sexy.
I agree with BSweet69. She's expecting the man to read her mind. Or, more likely, she's assuming that the man will have the same idea as she does, of what a rape fantasy looks like. That's what makes her so naive.
Posted by Brie on January 16, 2011 at 10:38 AM · Report
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She does seem rather confused about the fantasy v. reality of it all. But maybe there is something else she was trying to convey that she just didn't express well. Maybe she really meant that she wants some element of surprise and that if she plans it all out she won't get that. But that can be solved by creating maybe 6 different scenarios as to how it will all go down and then letting him choose from that menu of options.
Posted by Diagoras on January 16, 2011 at 8:16 PM · Report
Unregistered Comment on January 17, 2011 at 9:27 AM19
How To Know When To Go If You Got FriendZoned
20 Things Every Woman Should Have Before She Turns 35
Why I Still Believe in Marriage
Are you searching for love with your ego?
Stop Looking For Love In The Wrong Places
Why Anxiety About Being Single Can Be A Good Thing?
What You Are Doing Wrong With Men And Other Lies You Were Led To Believe About Love.
Do You Have Poor Expectations In Dating?
Singles, Who Are You Talking To?
The Practice Of Being Alone
How Kindness Can Attract Your True Love
There's nothing wrong with someone having fantasies about being "taken," even forcefully. However, as a survivor of sexual assault, I can guarantee that "real" rape is not the kind of thrill that this person seems to think it is. Being the victim of real rape is about pain, terror and degradation--NOT pleasure.
What if her partner decided to take her claim to want to be "real" raped at face value and hire someone to do it...some thug off the street, maybe a drug addict desperate for funds to support his habit, who might be willing to attack her, beat her, violate her, cut her, and leave her for dead? Would she get off on that? No??? Somehow, I don't think so, either. :(
Posted by BeingABear on January 16, 2011 at 2:54 AM · Report
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This woman seems incredibly naive about the dynamics of this kind of scene. She really doesn't understand what "real" rape would feel like... Real rape which may include actions that she's not okay with. It would probably feel closer to cockroaches crawling all over her body than anything sexy.
I agree with BSweet69. She's expecting the man to read her mind. Or, more likely, she's assuming that the man will have the same idea as she does, of what a rape fantasy looks like. That's what makes her so naive.
Posted by Brie on January 16, 2011 at 10:38 AM · Report
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She does seem rather confused about the fantasy v. reality of it all. But maybe there is something else she was trying to convey that she just didn't express well. Maybe she really meant that she wants some element of surprise and that if she plans it all out she won't get that. But that can be solved by creating maybe 6 different scenarios as to how it will all go down and then letting him choose from that menu of options.
Posted by Diagoras on January 16, 2011 at 8:16 PM · Report
Unregistered Comment on January 17, 2011 at 9:27 AM19