https://solucracy.org/?HowToHelpYourTeenWithABrokenHeart
https://agri.gabtarn.fr/?SaisirAgenda&vue=consulter&action=voir_fiche&id_fiche=BeyondABrokenHeart
https://topogramme.fr/yeswiki/?BazaR&vue=consulter&action=voir_fiche&id_fiche=OnlyTheLonely
https://lhd6376.webmo.fr/doryphore/?WhatToDoWhenYouDiscoverYourNewBoyfriend
https://e-sol.fr/?WhatHappensWhenYourPartnerQuitsDrinking
https://marinebeth.net/?IWasAddictedToAnAddict
https://garecentrale.associations-citoyennes.net/?OnDatingWithoutTheDrink
https://xn--archipelcaussevalle-szb.fr/cercopitheque/?7TipsForRelationshipsInEarlyRecovery
https://adaptationradicale.org/yeswiki/?ACodependentAndANarcissistWalkIntoAMeet3
https://www.la-seine-iles-rives.fr/GreenDock/?5ReasonsToDateInYourFirstYearOfSobriet
https://www.comfortwebdesign.nl/blog/lifestyle/how-to-fall-in-love-in-recovery/
https://www.commercemobile.nl/blog/lifestyle/addiction-in-a-home-of-love/
https://www.commit-dienstverlening.nl/blog/lifestyle/five-relationships-that-will-get-you-drunk/
https://www.computer-discounter.nl/blog/lifestyle/where-to-look-for-sober-love/
https://www.computer-oke.nl/blog/lifestyle/is-texting-a-sign-he-is-emotionally-unavailable/
And that if she later decides that the "fantasy" wasn't what she wanted (or turned out worse than she expected) that, legally and morally, HE HAS BECOME a rapist.
There are two sexist cultural assumptions at work here, both deeply damaging:
The first is the one Mistress Matisse discussed.
The second is that all (or at least most) men are primed, ready, willing, and emotionally and physically able to rape women... and SHOULD BE WILLING TO DO SO on demand if their lovers request it.
No one mentions here the potential emotional trauma that the MAN might experience trying to live out her fantasy for her - the emotional and even physical pain that he might experience forcing a woman he loves (or at least likes) to have sex while she fights and struggles and screams for help.
Sure, that sort of thing can be hot IN A MUTUALLY CONSENSUAL SITUATION, wherein both parties have agreed to boundaries, safe words, and possibly even an explicit written agreement. But without them? No way in hell I would go there myself, and many men I know - kinky men, dominant, sadistic men - would agree with me about that.
Nor does anyone consider the aftercare involved in a physically and emotionally traumatic scene... aftercare for which he would be responsible, but probably would not receive himself.
https://agri.gabtarn.fr/?SaisirAgenda&vue=consulter&action=voir_fiche&id_fiche=BeyondABrokenHeart
https://topogramme.fr/yeswiki/?BazaR&vue=consulter&action=voir_fiche&id_fiche=OnlyTheLonely
https://lhd6376.webmo.fr/doryphore/?WhatToDoWhenYouDiscoverYourNewBoyfriend
https://e-sol.fr/?WhatHappensWhenYourPartnerQuitsDrinking
https://marinebeth.net/?IWasAddictedToAnAddict
https://garecentrale.associations-citoyennes.net/?OnDatingWithoutTheDrink
https://xn--archipelcaussevalle-szb.fr/cercopitheque/?7TipsForRelationshipsInEarlyRecovery
https://adaptationradicale.org/yeswiki/?ACodependentAndANarcissistWalkIntoAMeet3
https://www.la-seine-iles-rives.fr/GreenDock/?5ReasonsToDateInYourFirstYearOfSobriet
https://www.comfortwebdesign.nl/blog/lifestyle/how-to-fall-in-love-in-recovery/
https://www.commercemobile.nl/blog/lifestyle/addiction-in-a-home-of-love/
https://www.commit-dienstverlening.nl/blog/lifestyle/five-relationships-that-will-get-you-drunk/
https://www.computer-discounter.nl/blog/lifestyle/where-to-look-for-sober-love/
https://www.computer-oke.nl/blog/lifestyle/is-texting-a-sign-he-is-emotionally-unavailable/
And that if she later decides that the "fantasy" wasn't what she wanted (or turned out worse than she expected) that, legally and morally, HE HAS BECOME a rapist.
There are two sexist cultural assumptions at work here, both deeply damaging:
The first is the one Mistress Matisse discussed.
The second is that all (or at least most) men are primed, ready, willing, and emotionally and physically able to rape women... and SHOULD BE WILLING TO DO SO on demand if their lovers request it.
No one mentions here the potential emotional trauma that the MAN might experience trying to live out her fantasy for her - the emotional and even physical pain that he might experience forcing a woman he loves (or at least likes) to have sex while she fights and struggles and screams for help.
Sure, that sort of thing can be hot IN A MUTUALLY CONSENSUAL SITUATION, wherein both parties have agreed to boundaries, safe words, and possibly even an explicit written agreement. But without them? No way in hell I would go there myself, and many men I know - kinky men, dominant, sadistic men - would agree with me about that.
Nor does anyone consider the aftercare involved in a physically and emotionally traumatic scene... aftercare for which he would be responsible, but probably would not receive himself.